Failure(失敗)

　　failure

　　why are so many people afraid of failure? quite simply because no one tells us how to lead failure experience to growth.we forget that failure is part of life and that every person has the right to fail.

　　most parents work hard at either preventing failure or protecting their children from it. one way is to lower standards. a mother describes her child's hurriedly-made table as "perfect!" even though it couldn't stand on uneven legs. another way is to shift blame. if john fails the exam, his teacher is unfair or stupid.

　　the trouble with failure-prevention methods is that they leave a child unequipped for life in the real world. the young need to learn that no one can be best at everything, no one can win all the time    it's possible to enjoy a game even when you don't win. a child who's not invited to a birthday

　　party or enrolled in the baseball team feels terrible, of course. but parents should not offer a quick comfort prize or say, "it doesn't matter" because it does. the young should experience disappointment   and master it.

　　failure is never pleasurable. it hurts grown-ups and children exactly alike. but it can make a positive contribution to your life once you learn to use it. step one is to ask, "why did i fail?" control the natural impulse to blame someone else.ask yourself what you did wrong, how to improve. if someone else can help, don't be shy about asking them.

　　失敗

　　為什么那么多人都害怕失敗?原因很簡單：沒人告訴我們該如何讓失敗的經(jīng)歷促進成長。我們忘記了，失敗是人生的一部分，每個人都有失敗的權(quán)利。

　　很多家長竭盡全力阻止失敗或保護自己的孩子免受失敗。一方面，他們降低了要求。孩子匆匆忙忙做的小桌子，即使桌腿都不平，媽媽也會夸獎?wù)f“太棒了!”。另一方面，他們把過錯轉(zhuǎn)嫁給別人。如果約翰考試不及格，那么他的老師一定是不公平的或愚蠢的。

　　這些避免失敗的措施有很大的弊端，他們會使孩子對真實世界里的生活毫無準(zhǔn)備。年輕人需要學(xué)會，沒有人會處處領(lǐng)先，時時成功—即使失敗了，也同樣能夠從游戲中獲得樂趣。  當(dāng)然，沒被邀請參加生日晚會，或是落選棒球隊，都會讓孩子感到非常失落。但父母也不用馬上就跑來安慰或著說“沒關(guān)系”之類的話，因為這的確有關(guān)系。年輕人應(yīng)該體驗失望一—并控制這種情緒。

　　失敗從來不是一件快樂的事情。無論是對成人還是對孩子，它都會造成傷害。不過，一旦你學(xué)會了該如何利用它，失敗就會對你的人生產(chǎn)生積極的作用。第一步，就是問

　　問自己：“我為什么會失敗?”控制那種自然而然就去指責(zé)別人的沖動。問問自己，究竟哪里做錯了，該如何改進。如果有人能夠幫助你，別對請教他們感到不好意思。